It's not easy aging. Men and women both are presented with their own unique challenges and being in control of the fucks you give is hard. Here is my take on how not to give a fuck as man, divorced, pushing 60, kid's grown, out of shape, not rich but not poor, and navigating the modern world:
Quit the comparison game. Remember "I'm not here to impress. I'm here to be at peace with who I am. Take it or leave it."
Live a life that fulfills you... not one meant to attract others.
Detach from outcome. It's not about becoming cold or cynical. It's about being indifferent to outcomes you can't control, especially people’s reactions or interest.
Cut the shame loop. Stop punishing yourself for not being rich, jacked, young, what "they" say a man should be.
Understand you're deprogramming years of conditioning. "This belief isn't mine, it was installed. I can uninstall it."
Use thought reframing daily. Old thought: “I’m too old or unattractive.” New thought: “I’m not what some women want, but I’m not here for some women. I’m here for peace.” It’s work, yes. But repetition rewires neural pathways. Literally.
Flip the script. Stop thinking "Will she like me?" and start thinking "Do I even like her enough to care?"
Reality is what reality is. You are you. You are your own anchor. You are enough without being chosen. The moment you embrace that fully, your give-a-fuck meter starts falling fast.
This is not bitterness. It’s sovereignty.
Not giving a fuck isn’t about isolating yourself. It’s about returning to yourself so fully that your peace no longer depends on being seen, wanted, or validated by others.
And ironically? That’s when people start noticing.
